Episode 8
Why Is Trying to Be Understood So Exhausting?
You're in a meeting.
You say what you think, and you see the look.
So you explain again. And again.
Until you say something neutral that doesn't sound like you at all.
In this episode I share two moments that taught me about over-explaining: leaving a safe job that few people understood, and taking distance from a friend.
In this episode
- Why being misunderstood drains so much energy
- Leaving safety for entrepreneurship, and explaining it over and over
- Taking distance from a friend, and why that was right for me
- Why your truth doesn't need consensus
Walkthrough
00:00The meeting where they don't get it
01:22You're speaking a language that isn't yours
01:53Explaining, justifying, over-clarifying
03:43Believing the right words would make everyone understand
04:54Leaving a safe job, and explaining it again and again
06:13The friend I couldn't help
08:53Taking distance, and trying to explain that too
10:24Your truth doesn't need consensus
12:17"We just see this differently"
14:38This week's invitation
16:05Stop translating yourself
Worth keeping
"Your clarity does not depend
on others' comprehension."
This week's invitation
In one conversation this week, say what you mean clearly, once.
Answer sincere questions.
If they still don't get it, let it be: "We see this differently."
Notice how much energy you get back.
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